The Tyranny of Evil Bitches


Oh…women. Can’t live with them and can’t live without them. I know, because I am one.

I know all about the mood swings. I know about emotions that can ruin the most perfect day. I know all about doubt, fear, and competition. I know about the stresses that only a woman can understand.

I also know how bitchy women can be to one another. Women can be evil bitches. It’s true.

 

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It needs to stop.

In the past couple of weeks, I have received phone calls, texts, and messages from friends in all different walks in life that are upset about things that other women have said or done to them or their daughters. Petty jealousies and careless words should have no place in your heart to be spat out at another woman. Really.

It’s time to grow up, ladies.

  • If you’re skinny, it’s not an excuse to make fun of the overweight. If you’re overweight, it’s not an excuse to scorn those who aren’t.
  • It you’re smart, it’s not an excuse to feel superior to the less educated. If you aren’t educated, it’s not an excuse to hate those who are.
  • If you’re beautiful, it’s not an excuse to humiliate those not as genetically blessed. If you’re not attractive, it’s not an excuse to belittle those that are.
  • If you’re rich, it’s not an excuse to look down on the poor. If you’re poor, it’s not an excuse to rip off those who are rich.

The thing is this…you have no idea what’s going in someone’s life. Maybe they are doing the very best they can with the resources they’ve been given. We all have a different set of tools in our tool box, and not everyone can do what you can do. And vice-versa.

I believe it’s, like, in the Bible  or something that we’ve all been given different gifts. Each body part has a different function – the foot is not jealous of the stomach…they are both necessary. Why don’t we act like this when faced with a woman who we feel “threatened” by? Why are we so…mean?  (1 Peter 4:10, Romans 12:6…just so you know I’m not making this up!)

I’m not meaning to preach. I’ve been just as guilty of this as the next girl, but I am sincerely trying to change. Looking back, I would usually lash out if I felt inferior to someone, and in reality that’s a reflection on me. No one can make me feel a certain way – I do that all by myself. So, in order to feel better, we try to take the person down that did something or is something better than us.

How many times have I been to a meeting or a party and there is one woman terrified to interact with the other women for fear of being humiliated or talked about? How many times have I been in that situation? How much longer are we going to act like this? That is the tyranny of evil bitches – intimidating others through gossip, slander, sneers, and holier-than-thou attitudes. Weakening someone in order to make yourself feel more powerful.

It’s wrong. It’s hurtful. It makes us weak. It makes women as a whole weak.

It’s makes us evil bitches.

Don’t be an evil bitch.

You are just as good as everyone else. I promise, I really, truly, promise you – if you build other people up, you will become a better person.

Now listen, I understand PMS and being tired and having days that are 28 hours long. I do. But really…get it together. Just announce it – “I have PMS today. I am tired. I am hungry. I am bitchy. Please do not talk or look at me until you see me eat chocolate.” No more excuses.

No more competition. No more comparing. No more dragging other people and their feelings through the mud to make you feel better about yourself.

We are mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, cousins, and teachers. We need to be teaching our girls how to be better people – NOT how to be better than other people.

I’m sorry…I don’t think all women are bitchy and I don’t think all women are evil bitches all the time. It’s just that when we are, there are repercussions that we don’t think about. Little hearts (and big hearts) get scarred.

I promise you this – I will build you up. I will not tear you down. I will not compare myself to you or be in competition to you. I will wish you the best and pray for your success. I can only hope you’ll do the same for me.

Because I need it.

So long, bitches. I mean – friends.

 

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  1. Mary McMillan

    Jenny, you are so funny! And this article is absolutely true. We would all lead such happier and more fulfilling lives if we would take on this outlook. 🙂 Well said.

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